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Manly Resolutions Every Indian Man Should Take

A lot has already been said on how it is a man's duty to respect women and support them in every cause, why a society that doesn't respect is regressive in its thinking and why India is becoming unsafe with each passing day for its women. We know a lot of young men are all for women's rights, but chauvinism is much deeper rooted in the Indian society. While most men of this generation claim to be free of any sexist prejudices against women, there are a few things they still unknowingly do that contradict their support for women. This International Women's Day, we at MensXP bring to you a set of resolutions that every Indian man must make to make India a much better place for women.

Stop Staring


Okay, so the girl you see strutting across the road is beautiful and you cannot help but notice her. There is nothing wrong with appreciating beauty, but there is a very fine line that differentiates it from leching. While you're visibly discussing her with your group of guy friends even with no immoral intentions, she is feeling unsafe being stared at. Molestation is not just physical. Don't let your eyes make her feel uncomfortable.

Stop Blaming Her


Nobody is responsible for your behaviour. Nobody but you. No woman ever asks for it. Even if she strips down naked, she is not asking for it. Let us stop blaming women. Short skirts and vodka are not the reasons for rape. Rapists are. Every time you blame a victim, you're justifying rape and molestation. And that is totally the opposite of what we are trying to achieve, right?

Stop Gender-Stereotyping


The root cause of disrespect towards women begins at home. Most men take women to be the homemakers. It is not a woman's duty to do the dishes and cook food for her man. Do not associate roles with the female gender and feed the people around you with more gender-stereotyping than there already is. A woman can party all night, get drunk, sleep with men she fancies and still be the sacred being that the Indian society expects them to be.

Stand Up

From this moment on, do not let this fight for women be restricted to the women in your life. Women are mistreated every day - in your office, on the streets, in the market, in your own house. Speak up. Stand up for her every time you see a crime against women, regardless of who she is. Be man enough to stop what is wrong.

Stop The Abuse


Abuse of all kinds - verbal, mental and physical. You may not be physically violent with the women around you, but you might just be abusing them in a million other ways. Be careful about how you treat women. Something as trivial as hurling abuses at your friends can be demeaning to women. Of course, you're doing it all in good, harmless humour, but it is disrespectful to women, nonetheless.
Don't Look Down Upon Them


Let the battle between the sexes be fought only in good spirits. Women are not inferior to men. A penis doesn't make you any mightier than them. There is much more to a woman than her outer beauty. Do not objectify them. The day you begin to give them due respect as equals, half the battle against gender-bias will be won. Food for thought!

Don't Judge


Every individual has his/her own story. Just like wearing pink doesn't make a man gay, wearing a short skirt doesn't make a girl a slut. Even today, most men look down upon a girl who is in touch with her sexual side, while it is always an asset to be a sexually active man. Let's get rid of the hypocrisy please. It is high time that you accept that your wife/girlfriend/sister/mother can, just like men, be sexually aware and active. Come to terms with the fact that women need it and want it as much as you do, and it doesn't make them any less of a being.

Respect Her In Bed


Women aren't born to please men, in bed and otherwise. Her sexual needs are as important as yours, even though she may never pronounce them audibly. Porn may suggest otherwise, but it is not at all manly to look at women as your pleasure machines.

Support Her


We know you care about the women in your life, which is why you advise her not to be herself. But to think of it, doesn't this mentality strengthen the evil even more? Every woman has crazy expectations from life. Help her sail through. Give her the life she's always wanted to live.

Inspire A Change


The idea of a woman's position being behind the man is so deeply imbibed in the Indian culture, that most men take it for granted that their significant others would follow them wherever they go. Would you be willing to shift base to a strange city just because it opens new doors of opportunities for your working wife? Women have been doing it since ages. Be the man who changes the course of things in the country. Inspire a change today.

Here's hoping, the year ahead is much happier for women. To all our women readers, we salute you, for a world without women is like men without balls - impotent.
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THOUGHT

CAN MAN BE RAPED TOO??


In Ghaziabad, last year a male student of the Delhi University was raped by the goons of his girlfriend’s father. Then, the girl’s father set dogs on the sodomised boy, rubbed salt and chillies into his wounds and left him to suffer.
In Kerala, 26-year-old Vinodhan, switched on his computer and wrote, “I am a rape survivor”. A homosexual, Vinodhan, got the courage to come out in the open about the horrific trauma that he went through only after he heard the news of the brutal Delhi rape case. When he was 18, he was gang raped by six drunken men, and he still suffers psychological trauma when he meets strangers. Till now he has not been able to recover and doesn't feel safe amongst unknown men.
In another instance, 29-year-old, Krishna, was attacked by a stranger when he was walking to his aunt’s house in Kerala. Fortunately for him, he managed to scream and get away before his attackers managed to sodomise him.
These are some of the real cases of Indian men being sexually abused as reported by the major leading newspapers. But, there are plenty of cases that go unreported and unacknowledged, just because people are still struggling with the very question- Can men be raped too?

Male rape is a reality!

Most of you might find this hard to digest, but yes men can be raped too. And, they are raped– sometimes by men, other times by women. Well, men being raped by women is an ugly reality too that still lurks in the dark corners. Such things do not come out in the open as people do not want to accept or acknowledge that such a thing is ever possible as well. In the United States, 1 out of 21 men report to being physically abused. In India, such a study still has to see the light of the day.

Rape survivors speak!

Bringing the quiet struggle that men, who have survived such instances, into light, here comes a brave initiative. Project Unbreakable, encourages rape survivors to talk about their suffering as a way to increase awareness of the issues surrounding sexual assault. 
It was on this platform that men, who have gone through the trauma of rape and assault, held up placards quoting the people who attacked them.
This is a platform for victims to voice their stories, and help them bring their trauma to the fore and overcome it eventually. It encourages the act of healing through art.

Insult to their injury!

There are numerous incidents of male rape in India and all over the world. Men undergo as much trauma and emotional suffering as women do. Men are entitled to guard their honour as much as women are. Yet, male rape is not taken as seriously as female rape. Worst of all, male rape victims are humiliated. Their “manliness” is questioned. The humiliating part is when people actually run them down and refuse to acknowledge the fact that men can be raped too.

Male rape– always existed!

Male rape can be traced back to history. Soldiers of the victorious armies raped the defeated soldiers as an act of establishing total control over them. In Rome and Persia, men were gang raped as a punishment for crime, such as infidelity and theft. Such brutality against men continues even in the modern day. In fact, cases of male rape have become more common and more frequent.
Thanks to such biased and insulting outlook, male rape victims swallow their injury and keep quiet about it. Confused and ashamed about what they went through, several male victims do not even take medical or professional help to deal with their trauma. They shudder to go to the police because they know that the guardians of law might add insult to their injury. As a result, the male victims of rape end up being a silent community.
Since its conception in October 2011, Project Unbreakable has featured over three thousand images of sexual assault survivors holding posters with quotes from their attackers. Join hands with Project Unbreakable and help victimised men find their voice in this cruel brutal world. If you do, you will also be playing an important role in creating a safer and more secure world for everybody.

Source..Yahoo