Saying ‘No’ And 5 Other Things You Should Never Feel Guilty About

Saying ‘no’ to someone is perhaps something we all need to work on. But, it is difficult to do so when you constantly feel the pressure to excel at everything, all at the same time. You want your friends to like you, so you never say no to a meet up, no matter how inconvenient it is for you. You need that bonus or promotion, so you cannot say no to your boss, no matter how burned out you may be feeling. Trying to live by impressing others, setting goals that are almost impossible to achieve, is only going to exhaust you. There is absolutely no reason to feel guilty about turning down a few party invitations, or even shutting down an argument that is only agitating your mental well being. Not just the ability to say no, here are a 
few other things you need not feel guilty about… for the sake of your own sanity.

Making a decision and worrying if you made the right choice

In the age of Tinder and Zomato, we are presented with way too many options in life. When you’re spoilt for choice in every aspect of life, it can get a bit overwhelming. It is perfectly normal to take a decision and instantly wonder how it would have been if you had swayed the other way. There is no reason to feel guilty about this. But, you must also learn to cut out the drama, take a deep breath, and stand by your decision.

Worrying about how out of control everything in this world seems to be

Some things are just out of our hands. You just have to learn to deal with it. In fact, forget the world, there are some things in your own life that are totally out of your control. Stressing and obsessing about it is only going to take a toll on you. So, again, take a deep breath and let it be.

Putting your foot down in front of your parents

In terms of sense and sensibility, millennials are miles apart from their parents. If they are all about sanskars, we are all about smoking up to deal with the stress of life. If they are all about modesty and traditions, then we are all about breaking boundaries and shattering stereotypes. So, when your ideals clash, it’s best to put your foot down, instead of suffering in silence.

Worrying about your authenticity

Most millennials suffer from something called ‘imposter syndrome’, a term coined by clinical psychologist Pauline R Clance in 1978. This syndrome basically makes one dismiss or overlook their accomplishments and live in persistent fear of being exposed as a fraud. These people tend to believe they achieved because of luck or being at the right place at the right time, and have thus deceived others into thinking that they are more intelligent or competent than they actually are. In this scenario, it is important to look at your own accomplishments objectively, it is also crucial to be more lenient with yourself. Even icons like Maya Angelou and Tom Hanks reportedly suffered from this syndrome at some point. So, you’re in good company.

Feeling depressed or having a mental illness

People tend to isolate themselves when they have any kind of mental illness, which is understandable because of the stigma associated with it. But, regardless of whether you choose to talk about your mental health openly or not, there is absolutely no reason to feel guilty about it. You are the one who is suffering already. There is no need to pile on to it. Talking to the right people, who are willing to lend a sympathetic ear, is crucial in these circumstances. But, so is knowing that it’s not your fault.

Source - I Diva